“Never pursue a career because others want you to. You’ll be the one spending half your life at that job. Pursue your passion” ~unknown
Pressure, expectations and the idea of not wanting to disappoint anyone makes life even more harder to live.
Almost every soul that surrounds me wanted me to become an educator. Like my cousins and aunts, some are fresh graduates and some are teachers for a long time now. Even my mother herself asked me to be like them. About 6 years ago she told me “Pangging pag maestra nalang” then I answered her “Ma, dili nalang ko mu skwela oy”. I didn’t mean to hurt her but that time I was so full of myself that I have guts to answer her that way. I respect the idea that she wanted me to be like them or to be one of them however I just don’t feel it. Like I couldn’t see my future self teaching students and making lesson plans.
You know just because I refused to be a teacher doesnt mean I hated them or I don’t like them. Honestly, I love my teachers. I love how they motivate me everyday and helped me do the things I find difficult to deal with. Being a teacher is great and its noble. Indeed. However teaching is just not my craft. Im not good at it and my heart doesn’t beat for it.
When I told her Im not going to be an educator, I was certain with my words. Truth be told, if I pursue education and 100 percent of me wanted to be something else, I’d just probably be wasting my time though not totally but enough for me to sit on a couch, stare blankly at the horizon, wondering where all the years of my life went.
If you’re thinking I was so rude with my mom by being too forward well Im not. Long story short, I did explained to her kindly and genuinely. Good thing is, she’s the most understanding woman in the whole wide world and now she’s supporting me with my chosen field.
She’s no longer here but am pretty sure she is very proud of me, with my achievements and most of all she’s proud and happy seeing me becoming the person I dreamed to be.
Choosing what course to take up in college is no easy task, same way as creating a life and a future (Well it is different in a way its the same) plus the “all eyes on you” scenario along the journey. The say of people anywhere mutes the voice we have within. It distracts the peacefulness we possess and tries to destroy the idea and dream we already created. You get confused, stressed and depressed every step of the way. However others dont tell you what to do. You do. ‘Cause if you let them control you, your being then Im sorry to tell you this but you’re about to waste your life big time.
So if you don’t want that to happen to you, don’t mind their opinions and just go on your way. Spare time to look at the man in the mirror and asked him “Am I meant to become what others wanted me to be or Am I meant to become the person of my choice”.
Ignoring others opinion is never easy, better choose what say to hear and make sure it’s worth hearing because at the end of the day, whether you become somebody or nobody people always have something to say.
So choose a career that you think would help you achieve a happy and satisfying life by that maybe for once their say is worth your time.